Coping With Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) / Seasonal Depression

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is a real thing – although I suppose if I were to get nitty gritty about it I would argue that it’s less a disorder than it is a difference in how human beings as individuals cope with the sudden lack of sunlight, change in weather, and instinct to hibernate in a society that still expects them to not only be productive but also deal with the stress around the expectations of the holidays. Still, as a feeling and an experience, it’s real. I have always…

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The Re-Patterning Project: Winter 2019

THIS JANUARY. WE BEGIN AGAIN.  You’ve heard that your thoughts create your reality, and that you attract the things you focus on most.  And yet you’re still feeling stuck reliving the same patterns over and over again, wondering what has to change. The problem is that you can’t see what you can’t see. I know, because I’ve been there. I was working hard to achieve in every area of my life, and yet I was miserable. I was young, smart, and capable making a life for myself in New York…

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Why “We’re All One” Only Works Some Of The Time

Lately in a number of places I’ve seen the Oneness paradigm used to minimize and derail questions that are asking specific answers about specific kinds of relationships. The Oneness (or unity consciousness) paradigm posits that we all, the human race, collectively, are cross-sections of Source divided by spacetime, that in the 5th dimension and beyond, where all time is present at once, we are all the same creature because we are all traceable back through time to that first single cell. My own mentor Grant Morrison likens it to imagining…

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Do You Understand The Path?

Things I learned today: People who don’t understand the path don’t understand the path, regardless of how “spiritual” they are. People who understand the path understand the path, regardless of how “spiritual” they are. Today I was met with nastiness online from a supposed member of the spiritual community for attempting to engage in respectful dialogue about a specific controversial spiritual topic. And today I was also met with enthusiasm and positivity by someone whom I did not meet through the spiritual community whatsoever for attempting to engage in respectful…

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Dear Empaths

Dear empaths, You are not infallible. Yes, you are more sensitive than most people. But this doesn’t mean you’re always right, and it doesn’t mean you never act like an asshole. No, not everyone who doesn’t like you feels that way because you’re mirroring their shit back to them. Sometimes it’s just you – especially if you haven’t learned how to manage your behavior when your sensitivity is on alert. Empathy is not a pass to never have to examine your actions. No, your bad relationships were not 100% the…

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Enjoying The Challenge

Earlier today I had a private client thank me for my work with him and express his appreciation for the ways it’s helped him grow in the past several months, and as he closed his statement to me he said, “I know I’m not the easiest nut to crack.” And I thanked him wholeheartedly for his kind words, and then I said, “By the way, I really don’t mind that you’re not the easiest nut to crack. I so admire your bravery in the way you keep showing up for…

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The Speed Of Your Journey Is Only Half The Equation

There’s a notion I’ve been seeing within spiritual circles that I’ve wanted to speak on for a while now that I find misleading, if not damaging, in its inaccuracy – and that is the idea that a speedy awakening naturally makes one a better, more qualified teacher. I see this particularly in twin flame coach marketing, with emphasis placed on how many/few months or years it took someone to reach union. I understand this because everyone who is starting a healing journey wants quick results – because exponential growth is…

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Writing and Releasing

I’ve had some fairly significant revelations lately that have led to adjustments in intention. One of these, specifically, is the idea that if the universe’s path for my growth really is working in the service of my best interests, then I have nothing to fear from rapid shifts other than the temporary vertigo of the adjustment. The universe has earned this trust with me over time: how many times have I braced myself for the pain of releasing attachments only to find that everything that fell away from me was…

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Returning To Journaling For The First Time Since My Healing

I’ve had some fairly significant revelations lately that have led to adjustments in intention. One of these, specifically, is the idea that if the universe’s path for my growth really is working in the service of my best interests, then I have nothing to fear from rapid shifts other than the temporary vertigo of the adjustment. The universe has earned this trust with me over time: how many times have I braced myself for the pain of releasing attachments only to find that everything that fell away from me was…

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#MentalHealthAwarenessDay

I’ve been sitting on what I wanted to write for #MentalHealthAwarenessDay, allowing it to percolate until it congeals into something coherent. I don’t want to make any assertions without first telling my story, so here goes. (Some of this has appeared before on my twitter.) Age 8: I begin displaying dissociative behaviors such as “daydreaming.” One of my teachers describes me as “ethereal.” Age 16: I begin displaying symptoms of depression – uncontrollable crying, despair, isolation. Age 24: Depression is exacerbated by anxiety, specifically anxious attachment in relationship. Boyfriend suggests…

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